Hope Remains in Pandora’s Box

Whatever hope is, I like to feel hopeful rather than hopeless. It must be good because so many people want it and wish it upon each other. It is described “to cherish a desire with anticipation, to desire with expectation of obtainment.So, here’s hoping!

via Hope Remains in Pandora’s Box – InfoBarrel.

Acknowledging Our Pain from ~OM

Acknowledging Our Pain
Rescuing the Rescuer

Sometimes the motivation to help others may be an extension of a deep desire to heal a wounded part of ourself.

Some people seem called to help others, often very early on in their childhoods, responding to the needs of family members, strangers, or animals with a selflessness that is impressive.

Often, these people appear to have very few needs of their own, and the focus of their lives is on rescuing, helping, and healing others. While there are a few people who are truly able to sustain this completely giving lifestyle, the vast majority has needs that lie beneath the surface, unmet and often unseen. In these cases, their motivation to help others may be an extension of a deep desire to heal a wounded part of themselves that is starving for the kind of love and attention they dole out to those around them on a daily basis. For any number of reasons, they are unable to give themselves the love they need and so they give it to others. This does not mean that they are not meant to be helping others, but it does mean that they would do well to turn some of that helping energy within.

One problem with the rescuer model is that the individual can get stuck in the role, always living in crisis mode at the expense of inner peace and personal growth. Until the person resolves their own inner dramas, they play them out in their relationships with others, drawn to those who need them and often unable to acknowledge their own needs or get them met. In the worst-case scenario, they enable the other person’s dilemma by not knowing when to stop playing the rescuer and allow the person to figure it out on their own. However, if the rescuer finds the strength to turn within and face the needy aspects of their own psyche, he or she can become a model of empowerment and a true source of healing in the world.

Some signs that you or someone you love may need to rescue the rescuer within are inner burnout from overgiving; underlying resentment; an inability to admit to having needs of one’s own; and an unwillingness to be vulnerable. Help comes when we allow ourselves to admit we need it, acknowledging our humanity and our wholeness by acknowledging our pain. The understanding we gain in the process will naturally inform and inspire our ability to help those in need to do the same.

My Thoughts…
This was my automated message from TUT~Universe today March 20, 2012:

I ask you, Phoenix, as humbly as I can, to consider taking the path less traveled, going within, and getting quiet. Being yourself, shining your light, and reaching out to others.

No, no, heavens no! Not what you’re thinking!! I ask these things not that they might be an alternative to living high on the hog, in the fast lane, loaded down with embarrassing wealth… but as a means to attaining these things.

Just striving to preserve our options –
The Universe

The time is upon me,I have opened my shadow side.I delved into my deepest,darkest shadowy night of soul.The night that in hide-sight lasted far to long.

Dirty Little Secrets come to my mind.

So many are very secretive and they don’t want there lives aired out like laundry so too speak; in public for all too see.
I got over that issue a long time ago when I first started my website.

My first article; years ago in a online forum I frequented was called “White Demons” and it started things.
I got many emails and corresponded with many persons who resonated with the message.

I just finished updating the web page. (The Brass Key)
It does not go into the full detail as my interview will.
In the web page~Names are not used; and it could be seen as fiction. I needed to do this as ill begotten things were done and I do not want any repercussions down the line.

As far as the interview it’s self I will probably use my stage name of Cryominute.The way the web works; a sleuth or other wise detective could figure it out.

All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages.
William Shakespeare

I mean seriously IP addresses link you as the person behind the screen, The Man is always at our backs and what is truly incognito ?
Google this and Google that comes to mind.You would have to be living under a rock for something not to surface.You would have to unplug and shut down if you did not want to be seen in some form or fashion.

If I can help someone who is drowning in there Dark Night…and in so much inner pain;perhaps indirectly I will be healing myself in ways I am not aware of.

Suicide seems to be the answer for so many and that is heart breaking to the families.
They are the ones left to deal with the guilt of perhaps not seeing or doing enough.


When you’re weary
Feeling small
When tears are in your eyes
I will dry them all

I’m on your side
When times get rough
And friends just can’t be found
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down

When you’re down and out
When you’re on the street
When evening falls so hard
I will comfort you

I’ll take your part
When darkness comes
And pain is all around

Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down

Sail on Silver Girl,
Sail on by
Your time has come to shine
All your dreams are on their way

See how they shine
If you need a friend
I’m sailing right behind
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will ease your mind
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will ease your mind