“The fires that burn us are the ones we learn from. The ashes are what we rise from.”
Quote Copyright ©2012 Cynthia Martz
In reading other blogs I quote from Sarah Tate~Perfect Analogy
Your Cluster B is probably already cultivating another relationship by now, but still he/she will not release you from their clutches.
“Once your Cluster B realizes you’ve gained the strength to walk away, he/she will cut you loose…completely. You will find this both shocking and possibly even hurtful at first, but believe me, it’s by far the best thing. Once you have rejected a Cluster B (you always reject them, they never do anything to drive you away…remember, they are always the wronged party), there is no going back. You will be dropped, and left high and dry.”
In describing “N” I have many descriptions…
Selfish, controlling, irresponsible, thoughtless, disrespectful, sexually exploitative, immature, a pathological liar, cruel, manipulative, deceitful, self-serving, shallow, cowardly, perverted, degenerate, unkind, loathsome, irreverent, despicable, ninny hammer.
When we first connected I loved him for his happy-go-lucky ways, his smile and laughter, the way he cared for animals and babies. The way he loved me… enticed me , made me feel so very special. Now I realize they were but ploys to get me to submit to his world.
If the saying goes “The older you get the more wisdom you acquire” I must be the definition of wisdom .
Definition of wisdom describes what successful aging is all about. It is knowing when and how to let go of what is finished, to reinvest in life, make compromises, and engage in new exciting activities.
May your journey bring you closer to the realization that you can see clearly into the void behind ANY deceiver’s mask.
You only need to look just a little harder before jumping in.