Emotional VampIre


Jung believed that the vampire image could be understood as an expression of what he termed the “shadow,” those aspects of the self that the conscious ego was unable to recognize. Some aspects of the shadow were positive. But usually the shadow contained repressed wishes, anti-social impulses, morally questionable motives, childish fantasies of a grandiose nature, and other traits felt to be shameful.

via VampIre.

HOW TO FRUSTRATE A VAMPIRE:

Develop healthy boundaries for yourself.
Never give them personal information – respond to their questions with your own questions.
Keep yourself focused upon your own positive creativity. “Idle hands are the vampires workshop.”
Never engage with these people. Remain aloof.
“Cut off their head” – since they live in their heads, having no heart connection, this is the source of their power. Example: Questioning their intelligence
Stay conscious! These people are stopped in their tracks by the Light of Consciousness. Show them what they are. Respond that you are feeling drained by them.
Go for the heart! Example: When you feel drained by a person, a class or a speaker, just get up and walk away. This is staying conscious.

The Shadow Effect


 Copyright ©2012~ Cynthia Martz

Copyright ©2012~ Cynthia Martz

Debbie Ford, continues to make headway as she exposes the opposing forces of both light and dark that compete for attention within every human being.

ABOUT THE MOVIE « The Shadow Effect.

“The shadow exists within all of us. It is a part of us and yet we spend most of our life running from it. But far from being scary, our dark side holds the promise of a better, more fulfilling life. Our shadow makes itself known every day. It is the reason we get furious over a friend showing up ten minutes late, yell at our parents or kids when they have done nothing wrong, and sabotage our own success at the worst possible time. Until we are able to embrace our dualistic nature, we will continue to hurt ourselves and those closest to us and fall short of our potential.

I believe that the shadow is one of the greatest gifts available to us. Carl Jung called it a “sparring partner”; it is the opponent within us that exposes our flaws and sharpens our skills. It is the teacher, the trainer, and the guide that supports us in uncovering our true magnificence. The shadow is not a problem to be solved or an enemy to be conquered but a fertile field to be cultivated. When we dig our hands into its rich soil, we will discover the potent seeds of the people we most desire to be. It is our sincere hope that you take this journey, for we know what’s waiting inside.”

There is no one in the world who doesn’t have a shadow, and when taken seriously and understood, the shadow can birth a new reality that will alter the way we feel about ourselves, the way we parent our children, the way we treat our partners, the way we interact with our community members, and the way we engage with other nations.

Debbie Ford

My thoughts…
Whenever I did something that I knew was wrong or hurtful to someone, I felt my shadow side was getting the best of me. You know the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other,having their little sparring match.

It was easy to say I was sorry,that it was my shadow and I allowed it to infringe on someone else’s parade.

Easy to blame the shadow…right ???

The best scenario would be not needing the excuse.It was The darkness,my evil twin; my shadow side controlling me.

Truth is,we all have that shadow side. Some have it worse than others and that is why there is so much evil, murder and corruption in our world.

They do not have coping skills,nor any answers. They strike without provocation at times, other times they willfully plan and take there good old-time wrecking havoc on other’s lives.

I believe it is true that individuals need to be aware of this darkness. They need to face it, acknowledge that it is a real force to be dealt with.
They should never defend it, that just makes it stronger. They need to honor it and know that it is only in darkness that light can be seen.

Even with the light they may stumble. A person walking into a dark space knows there are adjustments that their eyes make to allow them too see more clearly.

Perception and Reality, the concept of what is the reality of your perception ?

You are in charge of the story, your life.

“Everything you see or hear or experience in any way at all is specific to you. You create a universe by perceiving it, so everything in the universe you perceive is specific to you.” – Douglas Adams

My glass by the way is always half full.

Silhouettes as Decor – Silhouette Art – Country Living


A Great Aunt of mine used to do this.My oldest sister still has the one of her that Great Aunty made when my sister was 4-5 years of age.

Scherenschnitte, the ancient art of papercutting, is German for ‘scissors snips.My ancestry is part German :)They used to be called “shades,” and sometimes “profiles,” “likenesses,” or “shadow pictures.” But the familiar black-and-white images we know as silhouettes would, by any name, be just as compelling.

So,there you go.

I lost mine along the highway of life,the Gypsy in me I suppose.

I have put a instruction book in my wish list on Amazon.It is called “Silhouettes, How to Cut for Fun and Money”

Silhouettes as Decor – Silhouette Art – Country Living.

Shadow Insights One


Shadow Cards offer a refreshing way to explore not just psychic phenomenon but core emotional truth.

Welcome to the Metaphorum, a place where new horizons of coincidence and synchronicity are constantly unfolding. This site features the Shadow Cards, a psychological tool that creates random metaphors, food for thought. These metaphors can relate to what’s going on in your life on different levels and thus trigger nourishing insight from the unconscious. They spark unique personal symbolism that can help make meaning out of chaos as well as dreams. Sometimes the meaning of the metaphors is very illuminating, sometimes less so. Yet each combination offers a chance to stimulate creativity and exercise imaginative association. The process of metaphor recognition helps foster intuition, mental clarity and better communication. It may even strengthen or increase the dendrites or connections between the nerves in the brain. How does it work? By revealing how the internal world creatively corresponds with the external world, by revealing how issues, challenges and relationships are transformed when looked at from many angles. More perspective equals more understanding.

The Shadow Cards blend with the synchronicity of everyday living. They reflect the random shades of significance that characterize human existence. However, the Shadow Cards are NOT like a Tarot deck because the interpretation suggestions are not rigidly codified. Nonetheless, some people have described the Shadow Cards as a Jungian Tarot.

Carl Jung coined the word synchronicity to refer to the conjunction of “universal forces” with the thoughts, emotions, memories and experiences in peoples’ lives.

These are my notes from Shadow Cards today.This will be an ongoing experiment into my sub conscious mind.
The words in bold print were the cards that came up.

October 21,2012

BAD~What is right or wrong

DUMB~Not seeing the real HIM

MEDIOCRE~Not being able to apologize

CONFRONT~My demons and compulsions

BETRAY~My health

SHIFT~ Going with the flow

COMMUNE~ Living alone but not lonely

Naivety~Wildcard
5 Cards

Shadow

Stiff

Grow

Deteriorate

Dirty

June 19 th 2012

My inner being “EXPOSE”

My “Rules” remembering to play

“Shadow”
Five cards
Wildcard

Where I come from
“Revelation”
Going with the flow

Left road is feminine
creative,intuitive
“Stiff”
Past addiction

Right road is masculine
reasoning,support
“Commune”
need to express self

Road ahead is Road ahead
“Mom”
remembering mama

“Assumption”
going for the nectar of Life

“Truth”
Wisdom

“Complete”
understanding myself
Shedding Light
Inner wisdom

May 5th 2012

There is only one “JUDGE”

It’s all in how you “PLAY” the game

Don’t “WASTE” time

“Sabotage” goes two ways

Grow” into the light within your shadow

Remember the Om in “WISDOM”

Sometimes when you go with the flow,you have to acknowledge the “SHIFT”

April 15 th 2012

Only the “Shadow” knows

what I “Deserve”

Is the “Illusion” my reality?

“Avoid” the collision

“Dismiss” the outcome

Do my dreams “Sabotage” me?

No “Envy” in my heart

The light of my “Soul”

The “Wisdom” of my years

March 23 2012

To “Die” is the cycle of life

“Ignore” a problem only enforces facing it

There is life in “Belief”

On the “Agenda”
3 cards
“Sabotage”
“Anxious”
“Dad”

“Dark Night of “Soul”

The “Good” and bad of yin-yang

What am I looking at?
On a stage
revealing shadow side
Seesaw of life

“Trust” in the Light

what is my match?
ego solitude
being validated by self
Pushed-Pulled~yin-yang
Is this a dance?

Swimming in the magic of my emotions

March 18 th 2012

“MAD” is just DAM spelled backwards

There is “MAGIC” knowing when to STOP

The maze of our “EGO”

There is No Good or Bad in “Mediocre”

Help someone if you feel “HELPLESS”

“SHADOW” around the corner

“TRUST” that you are at the right place in this moment

Do not be “ASHAMED” of sharing your soul

“Demolish” all negative thoughts

Be “YOUNG” at heart

March 12 th 2012

What you see as a “Illusion” is a glimpse at your reality

Just because you turn something off does not mean you “Reject” it.

There is only one “Judge

If you feel the desire too “Manipulate“get over it

As a “Rule” I am

YOU ARE NOT “INADEQUATE

Lovers” take time to Listen

Commune” is an intentional community

I only “Brag” when I find a good deal at a thrift store

Demolish” is a wreck in process

March 10 th 2012 9:43 AM

If you want your compass to guide you show more “compassion

Take “Bored” out of your Zone~Do Something Different

“Dismiss” the negative and focus on the positives

You are not “Inadequate” You are beautiful just the way you are

It’s a “MAD” world we live in

Don’t “Sabotage“We often get into trouble trying to escape intense negative feelings.

Old” is just a word,as age is but a number

March 9 th 2012 9:27 PM

Life is like a “magic” carpet ride.Unknown destinations.

You have to play life’s “game” to survive it.

Life” can be complete if you allow it to be.

It is “sacred “and full of wisdom.

Emotions play a major role,you have to understand them.

Things come to an “end” so other things can materialize.

Compassion” is a powerful attribute.

Sometimes it’s OK to “brag” about your accomplishments.

Always let your “truths” shine brightly.It’s better to hurry up and wait then to not play the game.

Control your urge to “dominate“,lay low sometimes.

Never be “ashamed “of your past,it brought you to NOW,this moment.

Everybody Has a Shadow Story to Tell


I have been going through a lot of my own issues concerning how my life evolved and decisions I made along the way.

My shadow side still tries me at times…it’s not a place I like to dwell in.

Excerpt:taken from About the Shadow

“Another way to spot your shadows is to look for things you find yourself doing by accident. No matter how hard you try to keep your bag sealed, your shadows may leak out in a way that seems beyond your control. For example, you may promise yourself that you’re going to spend more time with your family, when you actually spend more time at work. You may find yourself jumping into a questionable relationship, when you know that this person isn’t right for you. You may ignore your own rules about eating, smoking or drinking. When you repeat a pattern of behavior involuntarily, it is a sign that your shadow is running the show

I have been keeping notes on sub conscious thoughts.My Shadow Cards…tools for self-refection and revealing the unconscious.

I was a very manipulative stubborn person growing up and it seemed to escalate into my marriages and divorces.

There were times when because of religious beliefs (Jehovah’s Witness) on my mama’s part she completely cut me out…the longest time was for 12 years.During this time Rhea,her dad and I traveled to Europe (1971) and lived in Tangier for nearly a year.

No one knew our where a bouts except a select few and my parents were not among the select.

Years later she told me that everyday she was concerned if we were well,alive or dead…if we were warm and had enough to eat.Today I feel bad that I worried her like that,I can only say I must have had extreme issues my self to show so little love and compassion for her.
It was like I wanted to make her suffer as she had made me feel so unwanted and unloved.

Today I am so on the unconditional love…and try not to judge another unless I have walked there walk,in their shoes so too speak.

My mama died in 2004, my dad in 2001. They were both 79.Married for 56 years.

I told my daughter yesterday I wished I could talk too Mama.
We went too Snipes and I wore my mama’s sun hat.She was with me all day.The moments were like epiphanies.

My daughter was crying and so emotionally bankrupt last evening when she returned home.

What a mess.

I tell her she has HER LIFE.

I mentioned people do the best they can with what they have at the time.

I look at her and see an emotional empty 16-year-old. The one that (her husband) found and took under his wing for 23 years. The children came and she poured every bit of her being into them.
Now the kids are grown and live on their own.
She is separated but has no plans.The kids moved on with there lives.
The kids are striving yet thriving.My granddaughter (21) is a CMA (Certified Medical Assistant).My Grandson works full-time,he is 25.
I thought bringing her here she would possibly see the beauty in life again.
I wanted her to see the beautiful, smart and strong woman who is hiding from her.

Everyone has a story, issues.

Everyone perceives them in their own way.

It is YOU that has to work through them, facing head on and dissolving the conflicts.